Saturday, April 28, 2012

Just a catch up

a amazing autumn sky
dave attempts to steal food
This post and I hope you bear with me, is a bit of everything. I did go up North to see my mum, which was wonderful, sad and the best thing I could have done. I spent 5 days with my sister, and her daughter my niece Clare (who I wanted to adopt, not having any daughters I discovered the pleasure of the company of a 21year old girl.) My mum and I did speak, albeit mostly me, as she struggled to talk, but we understood each other. I spent time with my sister who has taken on the organizer for all the things one must do in the circumstances. Dad at 87 was exhausted and at times lost as he slowly realized his wife of 63 years was actually going to die. She's always been a bit of a Houdini, escaping cancer (twice) and heart disease, but alas not this time.
We thought about taking a photo, while we were in the Hospice, but in fits of laughter we thought it highly inappropriate, we did have lots of laughs, knowing mum could hear us although not able to respond. The last thing she said to me, as the Contessa and I were looking at her was "my two gorgeous girls" so we knew she hadn't lost her sense of humour.
I will be going up sometime this week for the funeral, the cost of inter island flights is so prohibitive, so many people who would wish to be there wont be able to be.
things for the grand-niece
the day after some night before
So here are the photos of things done, thrifted, seen etc. I hope they don't shoot of to the top of the post that would look trivial. There is a Aussie called Rove who always at the end of his show used to say "hug your mother for me". so I shall leave you with that. Love Aunt Bee.

4 comments:

  1. So sorry to hear about your loss. What beautiful final words you will have to cherish.

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  2. My thoughts are with you .Perhaps it's just wishful thinking , I still feel family members that have passed on are still around me

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  3. I am so deeply sorry to read your post. My thoughts are with you all. To be married also for 63 years is amazing and it breaks my heart to think of how your father must be feeling he is going to need so much love and support right now as you all will. Big hugs to you, dee xxx

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  4. Sorry to hear of your mum - thoughts going across the seas and oceans to you

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